My Hopes for My Son
I was equal parts excited and nervous to learn we are having a baby boy. I feel an overwhelming sense of love for him and I can't wait to give him all the cuddles. But, boys turn into men and I want to do my best to raise a thoughtful, conscientious, hardworking, equal rights-oriented gentleman.
To be fair, had we been having a girl, I know I would be mindful about doing my best to teach her to be a strong, confident woman, but one who knows it's still OK to be vulnerable. But, perhaps since the male psyche is so foreign to me, raising a son seems like a bit more of a challenge - in a good way, of course. It's a good thing I have a strong male role model in his dad to co-parent with me.
So, my son, here are my hopes for you.
I hope you have a carefree childhood, filled with love, laughter, and learning. Every child deserves that.
We will give you opportunities to flourish in the hobbies and activities you find exciting and fulfilling, be it soccer or art, hockey, music, or ballet. In turn, I hope you appreciate the privileged start you have as a little boy with these opportunities, as well as ample toys and books and clothes. So, I hope as you grow up, you know it's important to work hard to earn your successes that come next.
I hope you are well-mannered, polite, and respectful to family, friends, and strangers alike, but that you also aren't afraid to speak your mind.
I hope you grow up to be hardworking, like your Daddy, but that you also aren't afraid to show your softer side. I hope you know that it's OK to cry and be vulnerable.
I hope you know women are equally as capable, witty, and smart as you are. Know that you are lucky to have strong women in your life. Don't ever belittle them or take them for granted. In turn, don't let them take you for granted either.
I hope you love with all you have, even after you've experienced heartbreak. I promise you, things get better and it's worth it when you find someone who loves you and is as committed to you as you are to them.
I hope you have fun in life, but know there are consequences. Go to the party. Eat the cake. Take part in life's celebrations, big or little. But make responsible decisions and accept responsibility for your actions.
I hope when you find the One and get married, that you kiss your wife good morning, good night, and tell her you love her every day. That when you come home from a day's work, you jump right into your role of father and husband, helping with dishes and homework and bedtime routines. That you're always there for your own children, just like we will be for you.
I hope you know the value of hard work and that you work for your successes. But, more importantly, I hope that you make time for your family and friends, and that you appreciate the little things in life. They are what's most important, after all.
Most of all, no matter what path you choose, I hope you become a genuinely good human being.
I know this is a tall order, but I hope we can give you these experiences and teach you these qualities by example. Most of all, I hope you know your Mommy and Daddy love and support you no matter what.
<3 Your Momma